Looking for…. “Healthy woman”
Ok so here starts the travels of the dating sites. So in addition to two fat dating sites (which by the way I may have picked wrongly because they don’t seem like they get very much traffic? Or maybe it’s because i’m cheap and won’t pay but still expect to be messaged? Yeah that could be it… .
Well I also joined the dreaded “plenty of fish” site which was the causal reason for leaving the dating world all together in the first place. But I’m on there again and so far so good. Still up and front with the whole I’m fat go suck it if you don’t like it. lol. Ok well maybe not as blunt but i know what i want and I advertise as clearly and straightforward as one can.
So I’m browsing this morning and not on one profile but several do men have this tagged on at the end of their profiles…”Looking for a healthy woman”….
Like what the hell… ? Is it just me? But that’s like highly coded word for Skinny woman but who still eats properly therefore doesn’t exsist? Then there was one that defined what his opinion a healthy woman was (excluding the weight issue) “a girl who isn’t afraid to walk to the corner store, and eat as healthily as possible”…. Well I’m both of those but damn if by my profile or picture he would “assume” that i meet that criteria… Like holy lord if your going to attached that seriously coded “I’m looking for a girl who has a specific look but want to make it sound ok that i’m being judgemental” statement at least be blunt and put “I want an attractive girl who’s slightly athletic”. Doesn’t that sound a little more forgivable? At least they’re not hiding their intentions in the later statement?
What are your thoughts?
pithstop said,
June 8, 2008 at 11:11 pm
I wish people could just say what they mean without having the fear of God in them about having to be politically correct. You can be blunt without being rude, but no one wins if you have to tiptoe around so much that you can’t even say what you mean.
peggynature said,
June 9, 2008 at 3:46 am
To me, it sounds like the same code as “looking for a woman who takes care of herself…” I always wondered why they didn’t just come out and say “looking for a slender woman.” It would be less insulting than assuming that fat people are de facto unhealthy or don’t “take care of themselves.”
twinkle4483 said,
June 17, 2008 at 1:53 am
It’s totally in the same league of comments as “looking for a woman who takes care of herself” one of the other dreaded tag lines that i hate.